Socializing out and about can be great fun when everyone is bright-eyed and bushy-tailed. Going to an event in the city? Yay, I am going to connect with so many new people and maybe even see familiar faces. An invite to an acquaintance’s birthday party? Amazing, I’m going to get closer with everyone and solidify friendships. Someone cold-shouldered me at the outing? Oh.

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It is often assumed that everyone, for the most part, will be kind and inviting upon first meeting each other. However, this isn’t always the case, nor should it be. You’re not meant to get along with absolutely everyone. Sometimes it isn’t even the first impression that indicates your future relationship with that person. I’ve had less than impressive first conversations with people who went on to become some of my best friends. On the flip side, I’ve had great first conversations with people but then the friendship just fizzles out, or never even takes off.

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As someone who is particular with who I befriend, I urge people to see that just because someone is not drawn to you as a friend, it 99% of the time is not personal. Not liking someone as a friend doesn’t directly mean disliking them, but more of an indifferent feeling. Which, in a day and age where having an opinion seems so essential, it’s refreshing when people show true indifference. So don’t worry if someone doesn’t like you, it isn’t personal and gives you more time to put into the people you love spending time with, and vice versa!